Discounts and Links

I thought I would post the links to the products I mention and keep them all in one place. Maybe that will be easier for everyone to find. I will keep adding on as I post more products. Please let me know if any of the links or codes are not working anymore! Thanks! ✌️❤️🦋

Disclosure: Some of the links included below are affiliate links. This means, at no additional cost to you, Stef Jordan will earn a commission if you click those links and make a purchase.

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Wild Natural Deodorant Code- STEF10 https://wildrefill.com

d’Alba Spray Serum https://www.octoly.com/c/hc61h/r/hba8a

Driftwood by Wild Spirit Fragrances Code-IFSTEFSAYSSO15 https://glnk.io/xpn4/ifstefsaysso

SoapBox Liquid Hand Soaps https://www.target.com/b/soapbox/-/N-q643lehw437

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SolaWave Wand http://solawave.refr.cc/stefjordan

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Nymeria Factory Vitamin C Professional Facial Serum Code- IFSTEFSAYSSO10 https://bit.ly/3phyG0I

Formulate https://www.formulate.co/u/ifstefsaysso

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Merci Handy So Fresh, So Clean Deodorant https://us.mercihandy.com/collections/the-body/deodorant

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Mamonde Red Energy Recovery Serum https://www.octoly.com/c/hc61h/r/hb6fi

Hen Pecked Primitives https://www.facebook.com/henpeckedprimitives/

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Blissy Pillow Case https://blissy.com/collections/pillowcases/products/pillowcase-white-queen

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Royal Formula- Code: IFSTEFSAYSSO15 www.royalformula.com

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Gillette SkinGuard https://www.walmart.com/col/818403878

Whitefrost Charcoal-Code: STEFSMILE www.whitefrostcharcoal.com

Influenster www.influenster.com/r/3872348

Chapter 47: My Tips On Survival

A couple of weeks ago, I celebrated my 47th birthday. It’s been a rocky road… There have been a lot of good times and plenty that have just downright sucked. I started this list of thoughts and I just kept going. Before I knew it, I had to narrow it down to 47 and a bonus.

I thought I would share them with you…

1. Compliments are nice to receive, but they are also wonderful to give! Here’s a tip I have been trying get through to people… Complimenting someone else will in no way diminish any of your potential. Try it!!!

2. The right people will become more than friends, they will become your family.

3. Letting go of people who hurt you doesn’t mean you don’t love them anymore. You can love people, but set boundaries. You do not have to endure emotional abuse or blackmail, or physical abuse, just because you love someone.

4. Setting boundaries does not make you a bad person!

5. Standing up for yourself, and others, even if you stand alone, does not make you a bad person!

6. Sometimes it is just not worth the effort to try to explain things. Let people assume whatever they want and continue to live your life as you see fit.

7. The way you choose to live your life is none of anyone’s business.

8. No matter what you do, how kind and generous you are, some people will never like you. They just aren’t capable of seeing the good in others and it is not your fault.

9. I have written it before, but I will again, let them talk!!!!! Someone, somewhere, is always going to talk shit about you or someone you care about. Let them. You don’t have to listen.

10. Value your honest friends. You may not like what they have to say, but if it is the truth, swallow that pill, and thank them. You will end up thanking them one day anyway, whether you actually tell them or not.

11. The end of a friendship doesn’t mean you have to destroy that person’s character to others. Move on. Cherish the good times. Live your life. Let them live theirs. Don’t be a miserable little troll and trash them behind their back. At one time, they were special to you. Remember that. (OR you were pretending the entire time and using them. In that case, you SUCK! And still leave them alone!)

12. Distance doesn’t always make the heart grow fonder. Sometimes, it is just distance. Sometimes, it is a painful necessity to preserve your sanity.

13. You can love someone with all your heart and not be a part of their lives. It may hurt, but again, it is sometimes very necessary for self preservation.

14. If you don’t lie, you won’t have to struggle to remember what you have said. Simple, right?

15. Never put anything in writing you don’t want used against you, because at some point, even if you think you trust the person completely, they will probably use it against you. This even applies to memes. Seriously. I have seen it done. In a legal setting. Crazy! I know!

16. Stop worrying about what people say behind your back. Worry more about the people who are listening to that shit, and report back to you under the guise of friendship, rather than defending you or shutting that shit down when it was happening.

17. Blood may be thicker than water, but it’s not a guarantee of loyalty or love.

18. If you want something done a certain way, do it yourself! Don’t stand over someone’s shoulder nitpicking!

19. No one owes you anything! Get off your ass and work for what you want in life.

20. Do not give expecting anything in return. If you are keeping tally of charity, gifts, or favors you will not get far in life.

21. You cannot discard people when you are done with them and expect them to welcome you back into their lives at your convenience.

22. There is a big difference in pride in your accomplishments and bragging. However, some people will always see your happiness for accomplishing something you’re proud of as bragging.

23. No matter how nice you are there will always be some spiteful and bitter little person cursing your name out of jealousy. Let them. They don’t matter. At all.

24. Be open to new experiences. It may look boring at first, but you may just find something you feel you won’t enjoy to be one of the best memories of your life.

25. Men and women can have platonic friendships. It is totally possible. Not everyone is dying to screw someone of the opposite sex. They might not even see their “gender” when they think of them. They may just see a friend. So, calm the hell down and let people be friends.

26. If two people are happy in their relationship, let them be happy! Don’t be a home wrecker! Please note that home wreckers are not always outsiders trying to get your partner to cheat. Sometimes, they are people who are masquerading as “concerned” friends or family members. Yeah… They sabotage relationships, too.

27. It is absolutely okay to be depressed, tired, not yourself, withdrawn, or feel however you’re feeling at any particular moment.

28. You don’t owe anyone any kind of explanation for anything you choose to do. None. If you want to give an explanation out of courtesy, that’s cool. However, you have no obligation for any reason to give someone some detailed explanation for your decisions.

29. Learn to be aware of your surroundings. The world is a dangerous place.

30. It is perfectly okay to say no. You are not obligated to agree to anything you don’t want to do and don’t let anyone or anything make you feel guilty for opting out.

31. You are not obligated by any invisible bond to continue to stress yourself just to make someone else happy.

32. Being a responsible pet owner is one of the most fulfilling things you can do in life.

33. The love of a dog is unconditional. Do not take it for granted.

34. Help people, but watch out for those who will take advantage of your generosity. When you have nothing to give, take a look around. You will find yourself with very little company.

35. Beauty is skin deep, but evil penetrates the soul.

36. People will try to bring you down. It’s not you. They hate themselves and by trying to destroy others, they get some sense of satisfaction. Let them live in their delusional little world and keep doing your thing!

37. No matter how pleasing the mask someone presents to the world, eventually the people that matter the most will see what is hidden behind the mask.

38. Love does not guarantee loyalty.

39. Age is not a limitation. For anything. At all.

40. You can do it. Whatever “it” is… I promise. You can. It will probably be hard, and take time and a lot of effort, but you can do it!

41. Therapy helps. It doesn’t make you a pariah. It makes you a person who decided to deal with life in a strategic and healthy way. (It saved my life.)

42. You have nothing to be ashamed of if you have a mental illness diagnosis and if someone uses it against you, in any manner, THEY SUCK! (And probably recognize they have mental issues of their own, but are too cowardly to seek help. If you don’t like that, I don’t care.) It also does not automatically make you a danger to society and anyone who assumes this SUCKS!

43. No one is nice 100 percent of the time. Every single person on this planet has done or said plenty of things they regret. If they set themselves up to look like saints, don’t open their closet doors. You will be shocked by what they are trying to hide. If you decide to open that closet, move aside… You will probably get hurt by the shit that flies out!

44. It’s okay to like sex and express your sexuality. You have nothing to be ashamed of… Be sexy! Be you!

45. It’s okay to wear whatever you feel good wearing. If someone is critical of your clothing choices, THEY SUCK! And they are probably insecure and a little jealous because they don’t feel as confident as you.

46. Let shit go… Holding onto grudges and animosity will make YOU miserable.

47. Don’t forget your sunscreen. Start wearing it early. I don’t care if you’re 17-years-old and think you don’t need to worry about skincare. Wear sunscreen!

BONUS: Learn some sort of self defense. I don’t care what you choose to do, but learn to protect yourself. Everyone in this world today needs to know how to defend their lives and those of the ones they love.

If you made it this far, I want to thank you for reading. I have been blessed with 47 years of life. Have they all been full of sunshine and cupcakes? Hell no! However, there have been some amazing times and I am so grateful to still be here. I hope I have many years ahead of me, because there is so much left I want to do…. So many adventures to be had!

Until next time, hug your loved ones, cuddle your fur babies, read some good books, take care of your skin, and get out there and enjoy life!

Peace, love, and butterflies!

Friday Faves Volume III: The Original PeachSkin Sheets

How do I sleep at night?

Quite well! 😉💗

All thanks to my The Original PeachSkin Sheets! BEST purchase ever!

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I will freely admit… I am a sheet snob and I am not ashamed! I have spent a fortune on sheets in the past only to be sadly disappointed with the quality.

That is not the case with The Original PeachSkin Sheets! They are INCREDIBLE! First, they are affordable! Even if you don’t take advantage of one of their amazing sales, these sets are priced just right! However, it is the quality… They are THE softest sheets I have ever had the pleasure of sleeping on.

We have a memory foam mattress. It has been a chore to find sheets that stay on properly. Thanks to the 18” deep pockets, and the elastic that goes all the way around the fitted sheet, problem solved! They are soft right out of the package, too. You don’t have to wash them over and over to get the “broken in” feeling. They are also hypoallergenic and anti-microbial! They are stain resistant, fast drying, and do not shrink!

They are perfect for both hot and cold sleepers. I tend to get hot when I am sleeping, but the hubby freezes. With PeachSkin Sheets, we are both sleeping comfortably!

I chose my first set in Cotton Candy Pink, of course, but I intend to order more!

I highly recommend them! A good night’s sleep is an important part of self care, so why not invest in amazing sheets?

Happy sleeping!

☮️ ❤️ 🦋

Friday Faves Volume II (My Shiny Teeth & Me!)

I have a bit of an obsession with keeping my teeth white. It’s an important part of my self care.

To be completely honest, my two front teeth are veneers and keeping the rest of my teeth as white is a chore. I also experience some sensitivity and it can be a nightmare. Traditional teeth whitening kits are just not the thing for me due to this. They can often be irritating. Who wants to suffer for the time it takes the product to work during the treatment duration?

Thanks to the White Birch Teeth Whitening Kit, I have found a new way to keep my teeth stain-free and sparkling without the mess of traditional charcoal powders or the pain of traditional whitening kits! Isn’t that awesome? And there is no black charcoal mess! This is the world’s first white charcoal whitening toothpaste. It was developed by a family of dentists with over 50 years of clinical experience.

The white charcoal absorbs and removes tough stains. Their signature toothpaste and gel serum work in combination to brighten your smile up to six times in as little as two weeks!!! No strips. No trays. No sensitivity. No mess. And it’s affordable! It’s also safe for use with crowns and veneers!

Just wet your toothbrush, apply the toothpaste, then add a thin strip of the serum over the toothpaste. Brush your teeth with this combination twice a day for two minutes each time and in 14 days… Voila! You can start singing about your shiny teeth! (It’s a reference to the character Chip Skylark from the cartoon The Fairly Odd Parents.)

I am really pleased with this kit. On a scale of one to five, I would definitely give this 5 stars! I love it!

After completing the kit with the serum, I have continued to use their toothpaste for maintenance and my teeth look and feel wonderful. I highly recommend White Birch products and am so grateful I was given the opportunity to try them. They have officially become a permanent part of my self care and a firm favorite!

A Short Trip To Mystic Falls (Covington, Georgia)

Growing up, I was absolutely terrified of vampires. I had watched Salem’s Lot and I was convinced an evil vampire would somehow get into my room one night and drain me dry. I spent many a night with the covers pulled tightly to my chin, gripping my small cross pendant, and praying quietly until I finally drifted off to sleep.

My fear of vampires didn’t last. Somewhere along the way, and I can’t remember exactly when it happened, the fear turned to fascination. I began to watch everything I could pertaining to vampires. Well, anything supernatural really. I read, too. Oh, the books I read. It was during this period I discovered some of my favorite authors and my favorite characters.

When I was in high school, I discovered a teen fiction series that would change my life. I fell in love with the characters and read the original trilogy until it was almost in tatters. It still holds a place of high honor on my bookshelf today, complete with my high school bubble handwriting, boldly stating they are my property inside each cover.

That trilogy is The Vampires Diaries by L.J. Smith. It was published almost 30 years ago. Long before Ian Somerhalder, Paul Wesley, and Nina Dobrev brought the characters Damon Salvatore, Stefan Salvatore, and Elena Gilbert to life on screen.

With that being written, the first part of our recent vacation was literally a dream come true for me. I doubted I would ever make it to Covington, Georgia to see the little town where they had filmed the series, but my husband surprised me! After talking about it for so long, he told me to book the room for our Vampire Vacation.

I was thrilled!!!!!!

The road trip down was fun. We were in high spirits because of the excitement of going on vacation. My husband, who was not a fan of the show before the trip, but has become a devoted fan since, was even looking forward to touring the town known as Mystic Falls on television. (In the books, the setting is a town in Virginia called Fell’s Church.) We drove and talked. He asked questions about the shows and books and I was happy to fill him in on all things Vampire Diaries.

When we arrived, we immediately took a little drive through Mystic Falls (Covington, Georgia). Even though I am going to be 47-years-old this summer, I must admit, upon seeing the iconic clock tower, made famous by the show, my eyes did tear up a bit.

Things got a little tricky when we went to our hotel, but nothing can be perfect. Right? Though our hotel was listed as pet friendly on BringFido.com, they most certainly were not. It’s all cool. I have to give it to the customer service representatives at BringFido. They found us a much nicer hotel for a comparable price. Sometimes things work out even when it is a little inconvenient at first.

After a little rest, we decided it was time to tour the town in full. We were hoping to book a guided tour, but those are booked so far in advance, something I didn’t know, but should have, and they were completely sold out the entire time we were there. However, we did okay on our own.

We got a map and drove around to see all of the houses used in filming. We were really surprised how close they were to each other. Watching the show, they make it seem as if these people live quite a distance from one another. In reality, three of the key houses used in filming are within walking distance, with two of them being directly next door to the other. They are also not far from the square and the famed Mystic Grill, the hang out of any human and supernatural creature in Mystic Falls.

Yes, the Mystic Grill is an actual restaurant. However, it does not look the same inside. What you see on the show is actually a set built in a warehouse in Atlanta, Georgia.

There are so many little things in Covington, Georgia for fans of The Vampire Diaries. Not just seeing Elena’s house, the clock tower, or the Mystic Grill. There is also a storefront with both Elena’s name and her father’s name, marking it as their physicians’ office. There are stones with the names of actors who have filmed in Covington. And these include more than just the cast of The Vampire Diaries.

Unfortunately, due to COVID, the Visitor’s Center was not open at that time. It was a disappointment, because there is a lot of memorabilia on display, but I was not at all let down by what we were able to see in both the Vampire Stalker Museum and Alley Shop at the Mystic Grill. They have costumes and props on display and that was really cool!

I wish we’d had more time, but since visiting my husband, David, has taken to watching the show. He is now insisting we go back as soon as possible and stay longer! There is no way I am going to argue with him. We are currently looking at dates for a return trip and this time we will book well enough in advance so we may take a guided tour!

Stay tuned! I will be telling you more about the second leg of our Vampire Vacation. We went to New Orleans!!! Can you think of a better place when it comes to spooky and supernatural things? I don’t think so!

Until then… Peace, love, and butterflies!

☮️ ❤️ 🦋

FRIDAY FAVES Volume I

Well, out of necessity, and a bit of boredom, I have decided I will try to share something I really love each Friday.

Why start now? Why this Friday? Well, Instagram has decided since I like to actually engage with my followers and other Instagram users, I must be some sort of rebel rule breaker, and has restricted my activities. It really seems counterproductive for them to do this to their users, but I am sure somewhere in their terms of service is a perfectly good, and hard to comprehend, explanation.

It is what it is… Let’s move on to the fun stuff!

Last year, I was given the opportunity to try an amazing product from a company called DANI Naturals. This was not my first time working with DANI Naturals and I was genuinely exciting about receiving the new product.

They sent me their Coconut Hibiscus Exfoliating Sugar Scrub. This can be described as exfoliating paradise! The scent is intoxicating and the texture… INCREDIBLE!!!

Unlike most of the scrubs available, which work perfectly well for the most part, this scrub is just a bit “more”. I can best describe it as luxurious and very moisturizing. While it does the job of exfoliating, and does it well, it does not leave your skin stripped and feeling tight.

The scent! It is nothing short of intoxicating, as I stated before. It is a lovely mix of mandarin, hibiscus blossom and apricot, blended with pure coconut. It brings to mind a warm night on the beach with tropical breezes. Who wouldn’t love such an escape, at least for a few minutes, during the shower or bath?

DANI Naturals Coconut Hibiscus Exfoliating Sugar Scrub is made with organic cane sugar and organic soybean oil. It is ultra-gentle and super moisturizing. It is also vegan, cruelty free, and free of parabens.

It is available, along with so many other awesome products, at www.daninaturals.com for $26. I highly recommend this one!

Check back next Friday for another of my favorites and throughout the week for other posts!

Until then… peace, love, and butterflies!

☮️❤️🦋

Note: This was originally posted May 7, 2021. I am not sure what mistake I made or what happened. I had to publish it again today. Weird. ☺️

Oh, Honey!!!

Do you ever use a product and just have that moment when all you can think is, “WOW!”

Recently, I did just that! I was kindly sent the ULTIMATE FACE & BODY CREAM from Honeyskin Organics Skincare, and a sample of the Tea Tree & Cucumber variety, and I am impressed! Really impressed! Hello hydration!!! My skin loves me for using this rich cream!!! It glides on beautifully, absorbs quickly, and leaves your skin feeling oh so smooth. I am a big fan of anything that incorporates honey and this one does not disappoint!

Honeyskin Organics Skincare ULTIMATE FACE & BODY CREAM is made with hand selected natural and organic ingredients to help achieve softer, brighter, younger-looking skin. It incorporates Manuka Honey which is known to help protect against bacteria, assist the body with healing, and help repair tissue damaged by infection. It also nourishes the skin with vitamins and nutrients.

Honeyskin Organics Skincare products are carefully formulated to nourish even the most sensitive skin. They are organic, contain no artificial fragrances, parabens, or sulfates, and are never tested on animals.

If you would like to give either of these a try…. And honey, I recommend that you do, head over to www.honeyskin.com. Be sure to use code STEF25 when you checkout to save!

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Lie Down With Dogs…

There is that old proverb, “If you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas.” For the most part, it is a warning about the type of people you surround yourself with. It is wise advice, but my dogs don’t have fleas. And to be quite honest, on most days, I prefer their company to that of most humans.

I don’t hate people. I just have a low level of tolerance for childish behavior and bullshit. My dogs, Horatio and Marisol, have never once left my company and proceeded to take anything I have said or done, and embellish upon it, while repeating it to someone else. Dogs are loyal. We all know that!

Horatio and Marisol are content with just listening and pick up on my moods. They offer me unconditional love and endless cuddles! I don’t have to choose my words so they don’t offend anyone. I don’t have to smile or laugh in the right places when someone interrupts me, only to proceed to tell their obviously much more interesting story… I mean, why would someone interrupt you in the middle of speaking otherwise? Right?

Wrong! It’s rude and selfish! I know everyone does it from time to time, but if you allow someone to consistently disrespect you in just the tiniest ways, like interrupting you constantly, it can escalate until you are practically their “go-to” person to heap criticism and abuse upon.

Dogs won’t do that. Dogs will always be excited to see you! They want to love you and be loved in return. Unless they have been treated poorly, then they become untrusting and act out. Who is at fault in that instance? A human!

Dogs will sit patiently, for the most part, and listen to your tales of sorrow and woe. They will be excited and jump around when you are happy. They don’t ask questions or criticize you. They don’t mock your sadness or try to diminish your happiness.

People do. They shouldn’t, but they do.

So, I guess I am writing all this to say, I would rather wake up with a few fleas than constant negativity.

Then again, just like fleas, you can prevent negativity from becoming an infestation in your life. You can’t take a pill or wear a collar, but you can set healthy boundaries. You can remove toxic people from your life. You don’t have to feel bad about either. You can do things you enjoy and you don’t have to feel guilty about it. You can make yourself a priority.

Like your dog does…

Thank you for reading! I hope you enjoyed this little tidbit and get the message I am trying to convey. Feel free to leave me a comment or send me a message! I would love to hear from you!

Until then, as always… Peace, love, and butterflies. ☮️ ❤️🦋

Let Them Talk!

This week my post is going to be short and sweet. And to be perfectly honest, I am taking it from the caption of one of my past Instagram posts.

I think it is important to share, because there continues to be so much rivalry and pettiness, not just in the online Influencer community, but between women in general. It baffles me. I don’t know why we cannot support one another and be stronger together. Instead, there is a lot of shit talking and unnecessary criticism…

However, I say… Let. Them. Talk.

Love. Yourself. No matter what you do, good or bad, someone is going to talk about you.

LET THEM TALK!!!! Why?

You have done something to get someone’s attention. If they are saying something positive! Enjoy it!

If they are talking crap… Who cares? They are still talking about you. You are doing what you set out to do. You got their attention! They are probably grumbling behind their little screens because they are unhappy with themselves and projecting their unhappiness onto you! Let. Them. Talk.

Remember who you are Queens! You rule! No one can destroy your peace unless you let them. It took me a long time and a lot of tears to learn that lesson! Keep smiling and let them talk!!!!

Thank you for reading!

As always… Peace, love, and butterflies! ☮️ ❤️🦋

It’s A Human Thing…

If you search for the meaning of the word “empathy” online, the first result you will get is from the New Oxford American Dictionary. It defines empathy as “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.”

Let’s think about that a moment… How many people can really say they take the time to actually attempt to do just that? Understand someone’s feelings and share them? It may seem like a lot. It may even seem like a burden, but it really isn’t. Most of the time, it just takes a little bit of listening and a few words of comfort. Some of the time, you don’t have to say much of anything at all. You can just listen and let another human being know you are there for them and you care. You get me?

It is NOT hard to do. It is something more people should try to do. Or at least I think so. Especially in this world today, with all the many problems we are all facing. Have a little empathy for your fellow human beings!

Which brings me to the awesome sweatshirt I am wearing in the photo accompanying this post. There is a story behind it.

Oh, and that is my baby girl, Marisol! Isn’t she just the cutest?

So, about my sweatshirt…

When I was offered the opportunity to work with the company FerrisBuilt, I was thrilled. That is the company that sent me this incredible sweatshirt. Lindsey, the owner, reached out to me and gave me the choice of designs. This is one of the many she has to offer. I chose to include this one in a blog post because of Lindsey Ferris.

Lindsey had been working in the event production business for over two decades when the pandemic struck. For her, it was more than just a danger to her health and that of her twin daughters. It was the end of her career. What is a single Mom with two kids to raise supposed to do when there are no longer big events and that’s your business? Well, some people would probably still be trying to figure it out, but Lindsey is a go-getter. She put her knowledge and creativity to work! And thus, FerrisBuilt was born!

Lindsey has channeled her energy and skills in both business and art into creating a unique company that sells not only graphic apparel with contemporary messages, but also handmade wood art that she creates in her own home studio. And let me tell you, it is absolutely gorgeous! There are some pieces I have seen on her Instagram page that have blown my mind!

She has recently made the addition of mugs to the products available and I have my eye on a couple I definitely want to add to my collection for my daily tea and coffee!

Lindsey had been doing this as a side hustle for a while, but it became her main focus in July of 2020. And it works! Not only does it give her the freedom to express her creativity, a source of income, but it also allows her to organize her schedule to meet the needs of her children. If that is not setting an example of a strong and capable woman, I don’t know what is! In fact, I think she is phenomenal!

What started as an entry into a contest with FerrisBuilt, I feel has grown into something much more. I feel we are two women, in different parts of the country, who understand what it means to make a small business successful. We know how hard it is in this country to keep going when things don’t seem all that hopeful, but against all odds, we make it work. We are able to EMPATHIZE with one another, support and empower one another, and strive to help one another succeed.

In the end, isn’t that what it is all about? Helping your fellow human beings? I think so…

Thank you, Lindsey, for the awesome shirts and all the support you have shown to me. It is greatly appreciated! I admire you and am proud of everything you have done so far and what you will accomplish in the future!

To everyone reading, if you are interested in checking out what Lindsey has to offer, you can click the link below. There is something for everyone! You can find something that speaks to you or gift for someone special in your life!

FerrisBuilt https://www.ferrisbuilt.net/?ref=cotufvoqzns

Thanks for reading! I hope you enjoyed this blog! Stay tuned for more! As always… Peace, love, and butterflies.

☮️ ❤️ 🦋

Oh, My! Your Grace!

I am usually the person who likes to read a book or book series before I watch the show or movie. In my opinion, the written version is much better, and I love the added details often left out because of timing or budgeting restraints. However, I do very much enjoy seeing beloved characters and plots come to life on screen. It gives me great pleasure to put faces with the characters and see how closely they coincide with the vision I created in my own imagination.

Now, there is this show Bridgerton on Netflix. It is based upon a series of books written by Julia Quinn. The first season focuses on the book, The Duke and I, and follows the relationship of Simon, The Duke of Hastings, and Daphne Bridgerton, as they navigate the complicated society and marriage market of 1813.

I’ve not read The Duke and I. Yet… I have every plan to do so. Posthaste, if you will! However, Bridgerton, the show, has quickly become one of my all time favorites.

The show has been brought to life by producer Shonda Rhimes. Her name may sound familiar to a lot of you. She created, wrote, and produced one of the longest running and most popular medical dramas on television: Grey’s Anatomy. She is also well known for it’s spin-off, Private Practice, and the political series, Scandal.

I haven’t seen one episode of any of the above named shows. I don’t know why. They just weren’t my thing. Bridgerton is another thing all together.

I cannot rave enough about this show. Besides everyone looking incredible in their costumes, the sets being absolutely beautiful, and the wonderful racial diversity, the main thing that draws me into watching it one more time is His Grace, The Duke of Hastings.

Be still, my heart! Has there ever been such a man? So noble. So beautiful and yet so tortured. Misunderstood, but so good underneath it all. And dear God, Rege-Jean Page is an absolutely flawless specimen of male human being! You know when they describe people as having a smoldering gaze? This man. He definitely can start fires with a look!

Okay. I will stop gushing. Even though, I can’t help it. I have a major crush on this fictional character. Look out Damon Salvatore! You have some competition! (If you don’t know who Damon Salvatore is I will be writing about him at another time. Stay tuned!)

I want to mention what I feel was something so cool and unique. It surprised me and I absolutely loved it! THE SOUNDTRACK! The music is beautiful! Popular tunes are playing at balls with classical instruments and it is absolute perfection! I will admit I now have the version of “Thank U, Next” from the soundtrack as my ringtone!

More about Bridgerton itself…

This show is full of twists and turns. It is narrated by the mysterious Lady Whistledown, who gave me 19th century Gossip Girl vibes. There is a conspiracy about who she actually is and an investigation to expose her. When the identity of Lady Whisledown was revealed, not to the show’s characters but to the viewers, it was who I had suspected. I hoped it would go in another direction with the mysterious gossip writer, but I was not disappointed because I was happy this particular character was stronger than one would originally have guessed.

Also, there is the backstory of Simon, who is just stepping into his role as The Duke of Hastings at the beginning of the show. It is sad. It will rip your heart out and piss you off at the same time. I felt for him. Truly. I know it was fictional, but I am aware of people in life who have been treated so poorly when all they want is the love and approval of their family. Because of his mistreatment, it set the course for how he dealt with many relationships. Including his relationship with Daphne Bridgerton.

This is where things may get a little controversial. If you don’t agree with me, I am perfectly okay with it. I am not quite sure if I like Daphne or not. After I read the book, I may change my mind, but her actions in the show, without giving too much away, were a bit selfish and at one point, extremely over the line. She was completely disrespectful of her husband and his wishes without understanding his reasons. She ultimately did something I found appalling. And she did it after insisting they marry and accepting his terms of marriage. Until that point they were happy. Thus, we have the dramatic plot twist that drives the wedge between the star crossed lovers.

Speaking of lovers… There is a lot of sex in this show. A lot. It’s pretty hot and it’s not a show I would watch with younger kids. Trust me on this one. Even in the first few scenes, you will have some explaining to do. It’s not raunchy sex. Or vulgar and distasteful. And it’s not there just for the sake of having a graphic sex scene thrown in. It flows with the plot. However, its just not something I would let the little ones take in unless you want to tell them exactly where babies come from!

There are so many characters in this show. Some you will love. Some you will despise. Some you will pity. But it is a show everyone can enjoy. I think it is beautifully done. Obviously, I do, because I have watched it about five or six times all the way through now and eagerly await the next season!

Until then, I will be reading the Bridgerton series and dreaming of the Duke of Hastings…

You can watch Bridgerton on Netflix and the Bridgerton books are available on Amazon.

This post is not sponsored in any way. These are my own thoughts about a show I enjoyed.

I hope you enjoyed this blog post! Stay tuned for more! Leave a comment and let me know if you have seen Bridgerton or read any of the series of books based on the Bridgerton family…

Until next time, as always, peace, love, and butterflies! ☮️ ❤️🦋