Goodbye, Miss Sunshine…

I recently took a hiatus from posting on social media to rest and reflect upon recent events that have taken a toll on me both physically and mentally.  It all stems from social media, and connections I have made there, and connections in my personal life.  While I have been blessed with some wonderful and amazing people through my activity online, I have been exposed to a dark side.  A side that has depressed and disappointed me… Offline has been an abyss of dissatisfaction for a long time.

I have cried. I have lost sleep. My whole routine has been off. Everything has been negatively affected. It’s not healthy. It’s not acceptable. It’s NOT going to continue in this manner.

I know you’re probably thinking I shouldn’t take things so seriously.  I do try, but you see…  I have a heart.  I genuinely care about people.  A close friend recently advised me to not get so emotionally invested with people. Especially online. You know what?  I am going to take this inspiring woman’s advice.

Here’s why…

I am not perfect.  No one is.  I make mistakes.  I actually have a life.  With responsibilities, and you know, stuff that has to be done. I can’t be to everyone exactly what they want me to be. I am human. I am just one woman. I need time to focus on my personal life and my health. I want to enjoy things and avoid stress and drama.

Then there are the “friends” you talk to regularly that are unable to comment publicly on your posts. Nope. Done. If you can’t support me publicly, then don’t expect the same from me. I support people like I am getting paid to do it, and don’t mind it all. I get enjoyment from seeing other people do well and complimenting them. I like to uplift people. It’s part of who I am. I wasn’t raised with a lot of encouragement and kindness, so I try to spread it around like it’s confetti. Right now, it feels like it’s been fertilizer. You picking up what I’m putting down?

I don’t like being used either. People who know me in real life know I am a direct person and have shut down many conversations by asking the hard questions or pointing out the obvious truth everyone else avoids for the sake of not ruffling feathers. I will speak up. I will say what no else does. I am not rude, but I am not intimidated by truth. So, if you suddenly pop up out of nowhere, after having known me for years, get me to do something for you, then immediately show you had ulterior motives, I have my scissors ready. I have family I haven’t spoken to in years. I am not going to cater to someone who takes advantage of my kindness under the guise of “friendship”.
That is the cold, hard truth.

I also do not and will not play games. I am too old to try to keep up with being popular. I had my fair share of that back in the 90’s. I just am not going to conform to fit in. I am who I am, and I am okay with that. I am not part of the “you can’t sit with us crowd.” I have reservations at a better restaurant. I am fine eating alone. I never liked high school cafeteria food anyway.

I am not saying I don’t appreciate the genuine people out there. I most certainly do. The ones who make an effort to support me. To speak up and stand by me. To check on me. To chat with me. The ones who accept me for the eccentric person I am. Who are okay with my flaws. Don’t mind my direct and honest way of dealing with things. The ones who recognize that no matter what, my intentions are good and I am led by my heart. I know who each and everyone of you are. I am touched and thankful for the messages of support. I am extremely grateful and overwhelmed by the generosity of those who have sent me beautiful gifts and cards. Thank you! So very much! I love you. YOU ARE APPRECIATED! Peace, love, and butterflies to y’all. ☮️❤️🦋

As for what happens now, well, buckle up… It’s about to get real. Say goodbye to Miss Sunshine. There’s some stormy weather on the horizon.

3 thoughts on “Goodbye, Miss Sunshine…

  1. Cara Cozy

    You are such a giving and lovely human being. I am so sorry that someone has caused you to question that even for a second. You are smart and strong and one of the people I would be honored to sit at a table with. Your comment on cafeteria food literally made me laugh out loud because it’s the truth!! There is no need for meanness or crudeness or callousness – in high school we’re all giant balls of hormones and stress trying to figure out who we are, so what’s the excuse now to behave in such a way? Sending love and light to you and your beautiful family. You have been a joy to get to know the last few months and I look forward to watching you shine!! The best revenge is no revenge at all – it’s continuing to live a happy and healthy and well rounded life and I know you are on the perfect path there.

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  2. Cara Cozy

    I am so mad because I left you this whole long message about how you’re the best and I’d be honored to sit at a table with you anyday and it got lost in cyber space but the sparknotes version is : you in all your versions are worthy and loveable and full of goodness and I am so happy and blessed to have met you on this side of the Internet. You are one of the most inclusive and warm people out there and I wish you nothing but continued success because you deserve it. You and your beautiful family deserve it. Keep being who you are because you’re pretty rad (also this is still super long but less long than the last one I tried to leave haha!)

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  3. Totally Tash

    I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with the dark side of social media. Hang in there and be true to who you are (and don’t let anyone walk over you or bring you down). Karma is a beautiful thing. Sending all positive vibes and support your way 💕

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