Lie Down With Dogs…

There is that old proverb, “If you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas.” For the most part, it is a warning about the type of people you surround yourself with. It is wise advice, but my dogs don’t have fleas. And to be quite honest, on most days, I prefer their company to that of most humans.

I don’t hate people. I just have a low level of tolerance for childish behavior and bullshit. My dogs, Horatio and Marisol, have never once left my company and proceeded to take anything I have said or done, and embellish upon it, while repeating it to someone else. Dogs are loyal. We all know that!

Horatio and Marisol are content with just listening and pick up on my moods. They offer me unconditional love and endless cuddles! I don’t have to choose my words so they don’t offend anyone. I don’t have to smile or laugh in the right places when someone interrupts me, only to proceed to tell their obviously much more interesting story… I mean, why would someone interrupt you in the middle of speaking otherwise? Right?

Wrong! It’s rude and selfish! I know everyone does it from time to time, but if you allow someone to consistently disrespect you in just the tiniest ways, like interrupting you constantly, it can escalate until you are practically their “go-to” person to heap criticism and abuse upon.

Dogs won’t do that. Dogs will always be excited to see you! They want to love you and be loved in return. Unless they have been treated poorly, then they become untrusting and act out. Who is at fault in that instance? A human!

Dogs will sit patiently, for the most part, and listen to your tales of sorrow and woe. They will be excited and jump around when you are happy. They don’t ask questions or criticize you. They don’t mock your sadness or try to diminish your happiness.

People do. They shouldn’t, but they do.

So, I guess I am writing all this to say, I would rather wake up with a few fleas than constant negativity.

Then again, just like fleas, you can prevent negativity from becoming an infestation in your life. You can’t take a pill or wear a collar, but you can set healthy boundaries. You can remove toxic people from your life. You don’t have to feel bad about either. You can do things you enjoy and you don’t have to feel guilty about it. You can make yourself a priority.

Like your dog does…

Thank you for reading! I hope you enjoyed this little tidbit and get the message I am trying to convey. Feel free to leave me a comment or send me a message! I would love to hear from you!

Until then, as always… Peace, love, and butterflies. ☮️ ❤️🦋

Let Them Talk!

This week my post is going to be short and sweet. And to be perfectly honest, I am taking it from the caption of one of my past Instagram posts.

I think it is important to share, because there continues to be so much rivalry and pettiness, not just in the online Influencer community, but between women in general. It baffles me. I don’t know why we cannot support one another and be stronger together. Instead, there is a lot of shit talking and unnecessary criticism…

However, I say… Let. Them. Talk.

Love. Yourself. No matter what you do, good or bad, someone is going to talk about you.

LET THEM TALK!!!! Why?

You have done something to get someone’s attention. If they are saying something positive! Enjoy it!

If they are talking crap… Who cares? They are still talking about you. You are doing what you set out to do. You got their attention! They are probably grumbling behind their little screens because they are unhappy with themselves and projecting their unhappiness onto to you! Let. Them. Talk.

Remember who you are Queens! You rule! No one can destroy your peace unless you let them. It took me a long time and a lot of tears to learn that lesson! Keep smiling and let them talk!!!!

Thank you for reading!

As always… Peace, love, and butterflies! ☮️ ❤️🦋

It’s A Human Thing…

If you search for the meaning of the word “empathy” online, the first result you will get is from the New Oxford American Dictionary. It defines empathy as “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.”

Let’s think about that a moment… How many people can really say they take the time to actually attempt to do just that? Understand someone’s feelings and share them? It may seem like a lot. It may even seem like a burden, but it really isn’t. Most of the time, it just takes a little bit of listening and a few words of comfort. Some of the time, you don’t have to say much of anything at all. You can just listen and let another human being know you are there for them and you care. You get me?

It is NOT hard to do. It is something more people should try to do. Or at least I think so. Especially in this world today, with all the many problems we are all facing. Have a little empathy for your fellow human beings!

Which brings me to the awesome sweatshirt I am wearing in the photo accompanying this post. There is a story behind it.

Oh, and that is my baby girl, Marisol! Isn’t she just the cutest?

So, about my sweatshirt…

When I was offered the opportunity to work with the company FerrisBuilt, I was thrilled. That is the company that sent me this incredible sweatshirt. Lindsey, the owner, reached out to me and gave me the choice of designs. This is one of the many she has to offer. I chose to include this one in a blog post because of Lindsey Ferris.

Lindsey had been working in the event production business for over two decades when the pandemic struck. For her, it was more than just a danger to her health and that of her twin daughters. It was the end of her career. What is a single Mom with two kids to raise supposed to do when there are no longer big events and that’s your business? Well, some people would probably still be trying to figure it out, but Lindsey is a go-getter. She put her knowledge and creativity to work! And thus, FerrisBuilt was born!

Lindsey has channeled her energy and skills in both business and art into creating a unique company that sells not only graphic apparel with contemporary messages, but also handmade wood art that she creates in her own home studio. And let me tell you, it is absolutely gorgeous! There are some pieces I have seen on her Instagram page that have blown my mind!

She has recently made the addition of mugs to the products available and I have my eye on a couple I definitely want to add to my collection for my daily tea and coffee!

Lindsey had been doing this as a side hustle for a while, but it became her main focus in July of 2020. And it works! Not only does it give her the freedom to express her creativity, a source of income, but it also allows her to organize her schedule to meet the needs of her children. If that is not setting an example of a strong and capable woman, I don’t know what is! In fact, I think she is phenomenal!

What started as an entry into a contest with FerrisBuilt, I feel has grown into something much more. I feel we are two women, in different parts of the country, who understand what it means to make a small business successful. We know how hard it is in this country to keep going when things don’t seem all that hopeful, but against all odds, we make it work. We are able to EMPATHIZE with one another, support and empower one another, and strive to help one another succeed.

In the end, isn’t that what it is all about? Helping your fellow human beings? I think so…

Thank you, Lindsey, for the awesome shirts and all the support you have shown to me. It is greatly appreciated! I admire you and am proud of everything you have done so far and what you will accomplish in the future!

To everyone reading, if you are interested in checking out what Lindsey has to offer, you can click the link below. There is something for everyone! You can find something that speaks to you or gift for someone special in your life!

FerrisBuilt https://www.ferrisbuilt.net/?ref=cotufvoqzns

Thanks for reading! I hope you enjoyed this blog! Stay tuned for more! As always… Peace, love, and butterflies.

☮️ ❤️ 🦋